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FreedomLover: Sometimes we fail to see our own faults.

A blind man was leaving a friend's house at night when he was suggested to carry a lantern. Laughing aloud, the blind man snapped, "What do I need light for? I know my way home !" His friend patiently replied, "It's for others to see - so that they won't bump into you." Sneering, the blind man agreed to use it. A little down the road, someone accidentally bumped into the blind man, startling him. Fuming, he yelled, "Hey! You're not blind! So make way for the blind man!"

Further down the road, another person bumped into him. This time, he got angrier, shouting, "Are you blind? Can't you see the lantern? I'm carrying it for you!" The stranger replied, "You are the blind one! Can't you see your lantern has gone out?" The blind man was stunned. Upon closer look, the stranger apologised, "So sorry, I was the 'blind' one. I didn't see that you really are blind!" The blind man uttered, "No no, It is I who should apologise for my rudeness." Both felt greatly embarassed, as the man helped to re-light the lantern.

Even further down the road, yet another person bumped into the blind man. The blind man was more cautious this time, asking politely, "Excuse me, did my lantern go out?" This second stranger replied, "Strange! That was what I was about to ask you myself! 'Did my lantern go out?'" There was a brief pause... before they asked each other, "Are you blind?" "Yes!" they replied in unison, bursting with laughter at their predicament, as they fumbled with their lanterns, trying to help re-light each other's.Just then, someone walked by. He saw their flickering matches just in time, and narrowly avoided bumping into them. He didn't know they were blind, or he would naturally had helped. As he passed, he thought, "Perhaps I should carry a lantern too, so that I can see my way better, so that others can see their way too." Unbeknownst to all, the blind man's friend was all along following behind quietly with a lantern, smiling, making sure that he has a safe journey home, hoping that he will learn more about himself along the way. -Shen Shi'an | pic:rommes.org

Sommerauer71: Well, that is ok.

But hey, if I wanted to be alone and he was not out being a 'bloke' and boozing and womanising, then I would expect him to come in, breathe on my neck and say 'honey, it is time you and I went and made that nice clean bed, dirty.'

I am not a difficult woman to woo.

Sommerauer71: The dog is the pet we both love, even if the dog was in a person's life before the new partner joined.

As for a rat, I would not be interested, but a man who loves his dog/cat/horse then I am interested, see I like those animals, dolphins, and so on.

But show me some vermin, I am outta there and I have seen alot of vermin.

Sommerauer71: What are you apologising for?

I agree, but if a man loves his dog and I do not, then we have a problem, that means we are diametrically opposed.

And that is not love.

If one wants the dog and the other does not, then the time will be wasted on that argument...

And that is not for me, I am not fond of rats, therefore if I met a man who kept them, I would not expect him to give them up, but I would not be dreadfully excited about them, so therefore I do not love him enough to put up with the rats, if I loved him, I would be with him despite the rats. But him keeping rats would not be for me...

So therefore, I remove the problem before it starts...

Sommerauer71: I do not have to prove my love by actions, I am not doing the actions to prove that I love them, I am doing the actions because I love them.

That includes, morning, late morning, noon, afternoon, evening and night.

There is no proving in that, any person that loves me and I love to will not need proof, both of us being there for each other will be enough.

mychelle: Samora, some men do feel that it is their duty to satisfy a woman, and if it isn't happening then he feels failure on his part. Some men are performance driven, while other will let you decide what you want to do together, or even allow you to make the decision to be the initiator for both of you.

shipoker58: No!! "I Love You" should only be reserved for your dog!!!

mylifewithu: The main thing I expect out of a main is to be honest and true to his word. And of course faithful. Don't say you love me if you don't mean it, but it is something I want to hear sometimes.

And I am the same honest, true and faithful, If I say I love you, then I mean it and would be prepared to be together forever.

mychelle: I would hope that he respond it by saying i love you too. But most times I hear that he doesn't have to say it because I say it. Well actions speak louder than words so a hug would be nice.

Sommerauer71: A bloody good night in the sack...